How to spark up marriage after having a kid.

Becoming parents is one of the happiest feelings one will ever experience. The little bundle of joy brings so much joy and happiness in our lives. However they also bring a lot of responsibilities which can take a toll on the relationship of the parents. This is specially true for new parents who are so overwhelmed with the sudden responsibilities.

Here is a list of things me and my partner did to get the zing back in our relationship!

5 Things to spark up the marriage after kids:

• Date night : It is so essential to reminisce the period before baby came by . This worked amazingly for me and my husband to have those few hours to ourselves. Plan regular date nights leaving the baby with a babysitter or a family member. If that isn't possible then even cuddling in sofa watching your favorite tv soap or movie after the baby sleeps also is a great idea.

• Get creative: Send cute , romantic texts to each other or just whisper I love you . As cliche as it might sound but it takes you back to the courtship phase when even a goodnight text would make butterflies flutter in our stomach.

• Get intimate: Don't let your sex life take a backseat after your bundle of joy arrived. This is specially true for new parents when the transition to parenthood is very difficult. One should never forget the power of hugs, kisses or even holding hands and cuddling for sometime after the baby sleeps. This keeps the romance alive.

P.S : a #quickie can be the new norm for new parents but one must embrace the fun of it too!!

• Communication: Honesty is the best policy and its specially true for relationships. Talking to the partner about how you are feeling and what made you upset is much better than carrying grudges which will only build up in the long run. If you want help tell your partner honestly about it. This is particularly true for new moms who are sleep deprived and expect the father to share the load. Well if your partner isn't volunteering then better ask him to rather than being upset about it. Couples should never go to sleep with unresolved misunderstandings.

• Giving each other benefit of doubt : Now you might think , what does this mean? Well I'll take you through it. So it basically means be kind in your relationship. Transitioning to parenthood is really very difficult and specially for mother's who apart from being hormonal , are sleep deprived and exhausted and basically so overwhelmed (speaking from personal experience). So if your partner is being irritable or snaps at you , try to give her a benefit of doubt. Don't snap back she needs you!Now transitioning to parenthood is difficult for father's too because they don't get the same amount of time or attention as they would before becoming a father and also the stress of bonding with the child during early phases can make dads super moody too. So the benefit of doubt works both ways.

I hope it helps you all in some way because marriage is not all about love , laughter and happily ever after. There are going to be hiccups but you just need to have each other's back! Good luck!!

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